Did We Do Any Learning? [2]

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Keep on Moving, Don’t Stop!

I’ve grown. If according to John Foster Dulles, the measure of success is not whether you have a tough problem to deal with, but whether it is the same problem you had last year, then I’ve grown and become successful. A few years ago, I created a problem for myself that cost me in currency that did not exist. That blow, that loss, that disappointment, that self-loathing, stole one year of my life. I hid under the bedcovers in January and did not emerge until December.

This year, I created a dissimilar problem. The blow, the loss, the disappointment, the self-loathing, was the same, but it did not steal one year of my life. I drew a circle of blame with one big dot in the centre, representing me, the first step in securing redemption and embracing grace. Then I forgave myself and doubled my productivity.

Since yellow is the colour of sunrays, Soul 2 Soul’s Keep on Moving, became my refrain. My mistakes helped me locate myself on the ladder of my development, several rungs below where I’d hoped to be. But wading through the putrid mess, I found as John Maxwell says, keys that I can use to unlock the next door of opportunity.

Fall, rise, keep rising, keep on moving, don’t stop!


©Timi Yeseibo 2014


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28 thoughts on “Did We Do Any Learning? [2]

  1. Someone told me once that life is like an onion peeling– we get to a seemingly similar point but we deal with it differently the next time and the next time… although sometimes the different dealing takes a few peels. I find my challenge is to make sure the different choice is not to do the past differently in the now but to make it be about the present. That’s my challenge.

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  2. I am sure many people out there are like me, with the thought of why did I create this unnecessary burden for myself is it worth it? but life as we know it, wait for nobody the earlier we accept the situation and forgive ourselves the faster the healing process.


    1. The question why and its elusive answers.
      “the earlier we accept the situation and forgive ourselves the faster the healing process.”
      I agree, although it isn’t easy to do. Thanks!


  3. “I created a problem for myself that cost me in currency that did not exist.” You are spot on here. Most problems are products of our minds. We concoct things in our heads and then imagine an even worse reality. To be able to snap out of it all and focus on “moving on” and “letting go” is a huge success. Way to go Timi.


    1. Thanks Nida. True that we sometimes concoct things in our heads and what we worry so much about seldom comes to pass. But this was a real-life problem 🙂 Accepting responsibility for my part and more was the first step in moving on.


  4. “securing redemption and embracing grace. Then I forgave myself and doubled my productivity.” Love it, honey. We couldn’t make it without grace. Not as spouses, parents, not as individuals who hope to walk the line of intent and aspiration while holding onto joy and peace.


  5. It took me a long time to figure that doing what I didn’t like to do as a profession (even though it seemed to match my skills) got me into trouble with myself. So I stopped doing it, 30 years ago. No major problems since. 🙂 –Curt


    1. I imagine that there’s a lot in this: It took me a long time to figure that doing what I didn’t like to do . . . got me into trouble with myself.

      “a long time” jumps out at me. I’m glad for you that you stopped, and I assume you’ve found contentment in what you now do. That’s a good place to be. Kudos to you! I’m on a journey to that place 🙂


  6. Timi, this is so inspirational. Thanks for providing a peek into your soul.
    Your story resonates with me to the nth degree!!. This is because sometimes, I unwittingly create the most complicated problems for myself and in those times of turbulence, I cannot help but pause, look myself in the eye and ask why??? (I am changing now tho” 🙂
    I have found that every so often, it is necessary to extend the grace of forgiveness to ourselves…same as we would extend to a sister or a friend. Only when we can look our failings in the eye and embrace ”grace and redemption” will we find the strength to move forward, leverage on the lessons from our past and do even greater things in the future.

    Keep on moving…Greater things lie ahead!

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  7. “Fall, rise, keep rising, keep on moving, don’t stop…”

    I follow 19th street (Efe) and he does this yearly review thingy featuring different people talking about life, love et al.
    Reading some of the posts, I was almost having heart palpitations.
    This year almost feels like the worst but I’m thankful for people like you; who encourage others with their writings and experiences.
    God bless you Timi Yesibo 🙂
    And nope I’m not crying it’s the onions!( that’s my story and I’m sticking to it)

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    1. Those annoying onions! 😉

      I’m sorry to hear that this year has felt like the worst for you. Making myself vulnerable makes sense when it strikes a chord with someone else. Let’s keep on moving, trusting that the best is yet to come. XD

      Thanks for the tip. I’ll check out 19th street.


    1. True. Some people are going through life ‘trying’ not to fall. Sounds good in theory, but in practice, one might always need training wheels.

      Thanks Nancy, it’s *wading*


  8. I’ve drawn a circle of blame, with myself the lone dot in the middle.
    I’ve loathed myself for not being productive this year, but then I have to remember to be patient with me. I’m learning like a child would, and I can be kind to myself by being patient with this young woman as she strives.

    I should thank you for being an informal teacher, Timi. You and everyone who have walked past my space on the blogosphere.

    Thank you 🙂

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    1. Sometimes, we are slow to learn; life doesn’t wait though. But yes, we need to give ourselves the gift of patience. Sometimes, no one else will.
      @ teacher, I’m humbled. Thing is though, we’re all doing life together, and learning from one another. Thanks too!


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