Any Comments? No, I think I’ll Pass.

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Dear Non-Commenter,

Today, the spotlight is on you! As I reflect on my blogging journey, I realise that engagement is a big part of the fun for me. Why have you decided to blow out my candles before the MC counts to three?

Following my informal survey, I’ve compiled a list of reasons why you don’t comment and given my tongue-in-cheek arguments against them. Find your excuse and tell me if your arguments are louder than mine are.

Reluctant Barry

You claim that you want to see what others are saying and where the conversation is going before you add your voice. In other words, you don’t want to be the first to comment. You surprise me. Are you incapable of independent thought? Monday to Friday, you make decisions like an entrepreneur without a board. Is it only when you come to Livelytwist that you cease being a pioneer?

Scared Molly

They told you the internet is a dangerous place and now you take everything you read with a pinch of salt. You worry that future employers are googling your name. You worry that when you become a presidential aspirant, a comment you left on Livelytwist can and will be used against you. Hmmm, what do we know for sure? Y2K didn’t happen and aliens are yet to take over our world. Unconvinced? Leave your comments with a grain of salt; call yourself Panteka Monleka, who cares?

Forgetful Harry

You were planning to, but you forgot. Committing things to your memory is like fetching water with a basket. No time like the present. Stop this minute and go to the comment box. Write about the sea or the prevalence of memory loss in Homo sapiens living in the Twitter Generation. You know what; don’t sweat it before you forget again. Just write, nice post, and know you have done your good deed for the week.

Ungrammatical Sally

My “grammar” intimidates you. You don’t want to sound like a fool. Really? Did I set an English exam for you? Do you not have spell check? Is it not true that since you began reading Livelytwist, your writing has improved? You’ve stolen a metaphor here and a paragraph there, basked in accolades, and didn’t mention my name. Meanwhile, you shared The Measure of a Man, with that boy who showed you pepper and when he didn’t say sorry, you read Happy New Love and rekindled hope. Yet, not a comment, not even one comment.

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Invisible Cheerleader

Timi, you go girl! Oh yes, I can soar on the wings of your private messages and clinch the Nobel Prize for literature! You say although you do not comment, you’re supporting me from behind. Ah, I can manage my behind myself. Please move to the front. For your sake, I posed questions at the end of posts to foster engagement. You ignored the hint and sent me yet another BBM: Timi you go girl! Get ‘em tiger! Where did you find a smiley clothed in animal skin? Never mind that, just leave a comment please.

Livelytwist Unofficial Ambassador

“Lol, this was so funny, I’m in stitches. Y’all need to read this!!!” If you’d left this comment on my blog, this post would’ve been redundant. Instead, it was what you wrote as you shared my post on Facebook and Twitter, while counting the minutes until the end of the second service at your church. I am grateful that two people heeded your call. Did you know one of them left a comment? You’ve almost earned your badge. 140 characters or less gets a pass mark in my book. I’m waiting . . .

Tongue-tied Mary

You don’t know what to say. I get it, the post doesn’t move you. What of last week’s post and the week before that? Like seriously sixty-plus posts and you don’t have an opinion? In school, you must have been like that child who always whined when the teacher posed a question to him, “They’ve already said what I was going to say.” I allow that here. Simply reply someone’s comment and write, “True talk. You just took the words from my mouth!”

Naija Pally

You have promised to comment by God’s grace. Your one argument trumps my thousands. No network. Enough said. Scores, Livelytwist: zero, Naija Pally: one.

 

Non-commenter, I could go on, but hearing from you is more important.

 

Regards,

Livelytwist

 

P.s. faithful commenters are also invited to weigh in 🙂

 

©Timi Yeseibo 2014

 

Read about social media habits: men versus women

http://socialmediatoday.com/valerie-mellema/2231276/do-men-use-facebook-differently-women

http://newsfeed.time.com/2014/02/19/how-men-and-women-use-social-media-differently-in-one-graphic/

 

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Image credits: all people illustrations, animes, avatars, and vectors by Microsoft

Design & infographics: ©Timi Yeseibo 2014

 

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142 thoughts on “Any Comments? No, I think I’ll Pass.”

  2. A funny segmentation. Loved the cartoons. A (E-) friend of mine took away likes from her menu and allows only comments.
    Way to go!
    (Worth following you, I think. Though as for that I’d prefer a “sharing” button.
    Take care
    Brian

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    1. Hi Brian, I think I did a good job of ‘bullying’ readers into commenting. 🙂
      Taking away the ‘likes’ option from a blog post is a bold move.
      What do you mean by preferring a ‘sharing’ button?

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      1. Just renaming the “following” button into “sharing”. I do not believe what I write or post is worth “following”. I’m not a guru, or a political leader (Thank God!) I see blogging more as sharing. When my blogger friends post something, they “share” it with me/us. Semantics really. 🙂
        Be good.
        (Or bad, whichever suits your fancy)
        🙂

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  3. I will comment after reading this, for some people it´s important it seems, too important. I got several things to say, there are a bunch of great blogs out there but I´m just human and can get to only so many during the day unless I spend the whole day in front of the computer which I can´t do, so some posts I browse more carefully than others and others I do a quick read and get the overall idea of it. And then hit LIKE which turnes into LIKED.
    I got two issues, one is that I rarely read other people´s comments. I just type my own and leave it at that, specially since it already takes time to read certain post it will take me even more time to read comments from others and there´s as I said a lot of people that I would like to read or do a quick check on them to see what poetry they wrote or whatever else they are writing and second and most important is that your grammar does not scare me, actually nobody and nothing rarely scares me. Plus I suffer from a condition called shameless so I love my gramaticalkl errors.

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    1. You dare not leave without commenting! XD
      Lol@ shameless “gramaticalkl” errors. You did that on purpose right?
      Thanks for joining the conversation. I enjoy the engagement.

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  4. Thanks for sharing this link Timi, I’m more of a procrastinating commenter. I’d read the post and think “let me prepare a robust comment” lol. Comments are essential for the growth of a blogger, the feedback you get not only encourages you but can spur you explore new lines of thought. Sometimes though, readers are daunted by the processes that need to be undergone before the comment sails through. I have a huge problem with commenting on blogspot blogs with my wordpress account, I haven’t been able to comment for at least two months using this account. You have an awesome blog Timi, I’m always excited to get the Sunday email and rush down to your blog. I know I’ve been irregular at commenting, I’ll “try” and improve… it took me about two hours to read and then comment, if this post hadn’t been about comments, I don’t think I’d have remembered to come back to comment.

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    1. Thank you Adaeze for not procrastinating on this one. XD

      @comments and growth, yes. That’s one reason I wrote this piece. I wanted readers to know that their comments matter to us. Don’t feel obligated to leave a comment though 🙂

      I’ve also had issues over at Blogger/blogspot. I think leaving comments on WordPress is easier.

      Thank you again Adaeze for the feedback. It thrills me to know that you enjoy my Sunday-Sunday tonic 🙂

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  5. Hi, Timi. Yes. It seems quite rude to read and run.

    Me, on the other hand – probably need to be actively discouraged: I see these nice white clean text boxes as places to put MY words. Wheee!

    Some are shy. Some are intimidated. Other don’t have anything in particular to say (but a like costs a microsecond).

    Nice to meet you.

    Alicia

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    1. Hi Alicia, fill up the nice white clean text boxes, wheeee! I don’t mind 🙂

      Sometimes it’s nice to know who’s reading and what they’re thinking. I’m glad you’re not shy. Nice to meet you too!

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  6. Ah! that cartoon is the story of my life on Sundays, lol.

    Blogging has taken me on a voyage of self discovery. It seems that we, to some extent, crave validation from others, and the thing is, constantly seeking that validation sometimes takes away some of the fun.

    These days, I try to write for self-satisfaction, because I truly enjoy weaving and manipulating words as sensibly as I can, so that they capture and reflect my thoughts and experiences perfectly.

    But I must admit that having a cheering audience makes the dance even sweeter 🙂

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    1. “Blogging has taken me on a voyage of self discovery.” I hope you continue to enjoy what you find. In my experience, a combination of writing that resonates, consistency, and networking brings a ‘cheering’ audience.

      If no one read my posts, I’d have no incentive to write. I’d write in my diary, and I wouldn’t polish my prose. I’m humbled to have found a community of readers and commenters, like you, who make Sundays, after publishing my posts, worthwhile. And yet, as I’ve journeyed further, I’ve let stats/comments influence me less and less.

      Writing this post was fun, reading the comments that followed was even more fun. And after all this time, reading yours is like icing on the cake! Thank you. 🙂

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  7. Well, wat can i say?
    U kinda described my attitude 2 posting perfectly. Am more of a behind the back silent fan who Woah-Gosh-that-is-so-great! An article but wil never comment.
    Ur articles are great and i love them!

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  8. Hi Timi
    Just found this post (and your blog) via the discussion on Jean’s Cycle Write Blog (“Not a Badass? Then Dear Follower, Tell Us Who You Are”). Love the way you’ve addressed this pervasive problem!
    Rebecca

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    1. I’m glad Jean connected us, that’s what commenting can do 🙂
      Perhaps more readers understand this pervasive problem a little more after reading the post, and are inspired to comment. Thank you!

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      1. True! As a struggling blogger myself, I have “agonised” over whether to try to address this problem amongst my own readership – if whether to leave it alone. Very interesting to see how you and Jean have each tackled it.

        You are definitely doing something right though with the high level of engagement you have attracted and nurtured in what is still a relatively young blog. 🙂

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        1. I’ve been upfront about the fact that engagement is one of the driving forces behind my blogging. I like to think that I’ve also demonstrated it by responding to comments on my blog and commenting on other blogs as well. It seemed that tongue-in-cheek was the way to approach this ‘pervasive problem’ 🙂 I’m glad it didn’t backfire.

          @something right, thank you. If I could bottle the formula, I would sell it and retire lol! Sometimes comments are up, other times they’re down. I guess I subconsciously use some of the knowledge and experience from the courses I took on online writing and from my day job, which involves a measure of social media engagement.

          I’m going to hop over to yours . . .

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  9. Judging from the length of this thread, everyone else, including me, liked this blog post. It shows your writing style and its potential. 🙂 I guess I’m the useless cheerleader here…or?

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  10. BRAVO, T. One of the best posts I’ve seen out here LOL. I do Salsa and Cha-Cha but I also do comment. My biggest impediment to commenting, though, would be time. I’m way behind on getting back to my own readers, am just really busy with my blog. =)

    Xxxx
    D.

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    1. Commenting can be WORK- replying comments, moderating comments, commenting on blogs you follow, commenting on random blogs, so I see where you’re coming from. I like the engagement and like that you made time to drop by 🙂
      @Bravo, yay! Thanks.

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  11. Hi Timi, I am doing the “livelytwist weekend” catching up on all the missed blogs. I am everyone you’ve described and more.

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    1. Oh Frank! Well you’ve come out of your shell and left a comment, and on top of that, you’re doing the Livelytwist weekend. Ah, a (non)-commenter after my heart! Thanks Frank, you’ve more than made up for your slips. 🙂

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  12. ****coughs******************************
    ****coughs again**********************
    Okay Timi, where do I stand *widegrin* for your blog, I don’t think any description fits me though..as per *wink wink* 😉 y’know.

    Hope uve been good? 🙂

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  15. Used to be a Scared Molly until I stopped caring, then I became Forgetful Harry, until I discovered sticky notes, now I’m like Livelytwist/ PoetryIsPeace/ #CantRememberHowManyOtherBlogs Unofficial Ambassador 😂😂😂

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  17. Haha! I’m guilty of this. I’m just never sure of what to say. But I love replying to comments. It’s strange. Tongue-tied Mary here perhaps?

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      1. Now, that’s what I’m talking about! Even after someone has said what you were going to say, you still left a comment! 🙂

        Thanks Shakiru for making Livelytwist livelier.

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  20. Hehehe, is it just me or did you mean to take it out particularly on ‘Invisible Cheerleaders’?

    Regardless the inertia to want to read and slip away, it always feels like a receiving without as much as a ‘thank you.’ “A thing or two, something, anything at all – just drop it,” I nudge myself. So if I never commented on it, perhaps I have not read it (yet).

    Timi, the ‘stroking’ (tongue-lashing) was humorous enough to hardly feel like one.

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    1. @Invisible Cheerleaders, Bunmi, it is just you and your guilty conscience 😉
      Whether you comment or not, I know you’re cheering in the shadows. Your support means a lot to me. Thanks for taking the tongue-lashing in good faith.

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  22. What, you mean you could’nt hear my thought but unwritten comments? I imagined that such an enchanting writer would have direct connection to all manner of reactions from her readers! I speak when I read you, as I am often part of the drama your words evoke, yet never with the thought of you as audience. So, just so you know, I exist and enjoy your work, and who knows, may even write my ‘thought and speak’ in the future. Thank you for adding ‘lively’ to my twist.

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    1. Olufemi, I have many gifts, but telepathy isn’t one of them I’m afraid 🙂
      @”I speak when I read you,” I love it when words bridge the distance between us. Now, I’d like to feature in your drama, and I’m looking forward to reading your play.

      Thank you for being part of Livelytwist. If you didn’t read this stuff, I’d have no incentive to write it.

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  23. Wonderful! For a blogger, comments are reassuring. But having many people drop by to comment on every post is a blessing from the gods of blogging (if there is anything like that 🙂 ) And I’m still of the view that a blogger who responds to comments on their blog(s) as well as comment on posts that catch their interest shows humility and respect. To blog is to communicate. No be so?

    You keep doing your thing, ma’am. You’ve my attention. Anytime.

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    1. To blog is to communicate, true. But some people like one-sided conversations 😉
      I’ve learnt that people blog for many reasons and commenting may not be a priority for them. Some bloggers copy the house styles of some popular blogs and don’t respond to comments- perhaps they are not arrogant or disrespectful; it’s just a matter of style?

      As for me, I enjoy the ‘blessings from the gods of blogging’ 🙂 Thank you Uzoma for your encouragement!

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  25. OMG!!!… *still rolling on the floor with laughter*
    Where do I even begin?
    Lord! as cliché as this sounds Timi, you took the words right out of my (and a thousand other bloggers) mouth! It feels so gooooood!!!!
    This is the perfect combination of humour, forthrightness, thoughtfulness and spirit!
    Thank you Timi!

    P.s; I second Diademstots prayer o and Samuel’s last point about bloggers who (obviously) don’t care much for comments by their lack of response.
    Plus, I had a great laugh reading the comments today. 🙂

    Dear “big girl next door”,
    Here’s to a more engaging&participatory blogging experience. Cheers!

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    1. @”you took the words right out of my (and a thousand other bloggers) mouth!” Lol, you sound like Tongue-tied Mary! 🙂

      I’m laughing too. I had fun writing this post. After my informal survey, I gathered that readers didn’t realise how encouraging their comments can be. @Diademstots prayer, amen!

      And you my fellow blogger, are a breath of fresh air. Yes, cheers to many more rolling-on-the-floor-with-laughter, blogging dates!

      p.s. there’s something odd about your URL, I can’t click your name & be automatically redirected to your blog . . .

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  28. I must comment on this particularly cos you are a regular comment on my blog and I know you practise this that you have preached! I once commented on a very cool piece and the writer replied thus: “thanks for the comment Ife. It feels good to be encouraged”…
    I guess a growing writer like myself has had to say and think that “don’t worry, when you get better they’ll comment”…
    ******
    This is really good Timi. The graphics….. Wow!

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    2. Yes, a thoughtful comment goes a long way. It might be too much to expect people to leave a comment every time, but if they do so once in a while, it’s a morale booster, and one way of measuring impact. We’re all doing life together, and I’ve found the WordPress family to be quite supportive.

      @graphics & everything, Thanks Ife! 🙂

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    1. True@ comments. I’m grateful that Livelytwist readers are generous with their comments.

      @lady in graphics, lol, you and me both! But I don’t wait for comments the way I used to when I started blogging, and sometimes, I’m surprised by the posts that generate comments. Take this one for example. Boy, am I glad that people are responding to the tongue-in-cheek ‘yabis’ nicely 🙂

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  30. Not that we are complaining or anything like that…..but “p’raps” Tis the grammar that is intimidating…..like u mentioned :-).
    You know sometimes…..by the time we have searched and fished out our Webster dictionary from it’s hiding place in order to decode the “lively twists” that you bring our way every sunday…it’s already time to make dinner and prepare for the week ahead…
    That being said, we need graphics lessons o 🙂

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  31. I am pleased to see Ife as d first commenter. He introduced me to Tomi or You to me depending on who you take to be the subject. I always like to b d subject tho… I’m not conceited or anything… *Bolu stop rambling*

    Hi Tomi, This is my first comment (durrhh, I’m sure you know that ), and I’d say this is about the 5th or 6th post I’m reading… I was gonna comment on d last one But I forgot… anyways, after reading ur last post, I told Ife that I’d start commenting on all blogs i read and replying people on mine as well. Prior to this time, I only used to drop comments on my friends’ blogs… consider that circle blown wide open…

    Which makes this the first of many to come. Nice to meet you Tomi, you’re awesome!

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    1. ‘Forgetful Harry’ lol! 🙂

      Seriously, it’s very nice to meet you too. I’m honoured to be in your ‘wide open circle’. I think that comments can enrich the blog experience for both reader and blogger, don’t you? I have a friend who reads my Sunday posts on Wednesdays because she wants to read not only my post, but also the comments.

      So thank you for joining the conversation and making our experience on Livelytwist livelier.

      @awesome, thank you! Now I’ll wear a smile for the rest of the day!

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  32. I might not be too guilty on your blog, but there I rarely comment on other blogs. The reason is simple: usually someone has captured my thoughts in the comments or the blog post itself mirrors it completely and I don’t feel a need to add my noise to the music, so I just like the post and move (I do this on your blog a lot).

    So I’m guilty as charged, but this is not a ‘feel-bad’ kind of guilt. It’s the kind of guilt that admits: Timi got me on this one.

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      1. Aha, another version of Tongue-tied Mary! 🙂

        Ife, your comments are sprinkled generously on my blog. You are not guilty. There are very few people I can ‘harass’ to comment on my posts. I enjoyed weaving their excuses into a blog post that I thought would resonate, inform, inspire thought and conversation, and my oh my, shock some.

        @typo, don’t sweat it; now you’ve had to comment twice 🙂

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  33. Oh, all right. I’ll leave a comment. Normally I am terribly shy and insecure about giving opinions, but you have made me see the light!

    **queue the James Brown**

    ***starts dancing***

    I Feel Good!

    Aye!

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    2. Lol, this is Timi *pushes glasses up her nose like an old school teacher,* Dear Jama, your attendance is hereby acknowledged. You may now go into your classroom! 🙂

      Aw, thanks for being here and giving me a laugh.

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  35. I get that comments are important. However, just because I choose to read your blog and not comment doesn’t mean I don’t appreciate your work. When I feel I have something worthwhile to add to the on going conversation I will chime in. I will not comment just for the sake of commenting. In the past, I have commented on various blogs and got a tidal wave of very negative, very personal criticism so I don’t put myself in the position to have that happen again very often. As bloggers and blog readers, we would like to think everyone creating and reading our blogs are nice people. The truth is some are not nice people at all. Just a new perspective for you to think about. Thank you for your time.

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    1. Well said. Why comment if you don’t have anything to say or don’t even want to?

      I like engaging with readers through the comment section of my blog. I invite it, encourage it, and treat everyone with respect. I think that we can get a sense about how a blogger regards comments by looking at the various comment threads on his blog.

      And you are right, even after we follow commenting etiquette, there is no guarantee that our comments will be received in good faith. Thank you for adding another perspective to the conversation. I like it! 🙂

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  36. Hahaha I don’t even have a real comment, but I got this smile on my face cause u nailed it ;). Just call me ‘too-lazy-to-type so i will just like your post instead of comment on it’ :p.

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    1. I have a smile on my face too. At least, you’re commenting now.

      But to like my post, you’ll need to open a WordPress account. A few of my ‘lazy’ friends who aren’t bloggers now have WordPress accounts for this purpose 😉

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      1. Ha ha Laboye, I know you’re an ‘invisible cheerleader’. With this precious comment from you, all your ‘sins,’ both past & future are forgiven! 🙂

        Thank you so much for your support from the beginning. Couldn’t have made it this far without you guys!

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  37. I am so reblogging this. To all the people who say “I read your blog so diligently, like every single post” or “Omooba hurry up and post another one” One Word- Gbam!!!!

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  39. Kai,*hand on my head* ….. have I let you down?? I thought knowing that I love your blog was enough!!! I feel so baadddddd. I’M SORRY!!

    Ok, enough said. I will try to leave comments more. I am one of your procrastinators…. I always tell myself I’ll post when i have enough time to ‘reply well’. But like you’ve pointed out, it never really happens.

    Just to reiterate – I actually like your blogs. They are quite uplifting, refreshing, thought-provoking and funny. Keep it up.

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    1. Lol, Ansa, you haven’t let me down. You do comment now and again, and I appreciate it. I write on different topics, and I don’t expect every blog post to resonate or elicit a comment. But less procrastination is good; I’ll roll with that 🙂

      I can’t thank you enough. Your reading and commenting, make writing this stuff worthwhile.

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      1. Hmm…money in all caps here and all forms of engagement in lower caps, Timi. What are you trying to say?! Lol. I’m glad I had the privilege of meeting you online first (I’m sure we’ll meet in person) because I have a feeling you’d slay me with sarcasm and euphemism…the latter is if you’re nice. 😀

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        1. Maggielola, just trying to be realistic. We bloggers talk about how we love writing; writing is the air we breathe, and all that poetic stuff, but we’re also dreaming of being paid for writing 🙂 @meeting, I’m just a sweet girl-next-door, have no fear 😉

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  42. “True talk. You just took the words from my mouth!” LOL! I discoverd this blog a couple of days ago and it looks like im gonna gradually become a ‘regular commenter’ here. I laughed so hard at those images and rememberd when i wrote my first ever post on my blog in 2012 ( I actually did call my Dad to read!)

    Back to the non-commenters, scores of people read your posts regurlarly and never comment. i remember introducing myself to the Mc at a New media symposium i was invited last month and he said “Emekatalks? Really? I read that blog, infact a bla bla guy that works with Jobberman introduced the blog to me”.. And i wondered, how come these guys never dropped a comment? .. Well I guess we just have to keep writing and pray the non-commenters continue to REPENT. .

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    1. Lol, you called your dad? I remember how I used to harass family and friends to read, comment, and share my posts. When they stopped taking my calls on Sundays, I knew it was time to stop 🙂

      @”scores of people read your posts regurlarly and never comment,” true. I’ve had similar experiences. I can only hope this post tickles their sensibilities, and encourages them to leave a comment now and again.

      @regular commenter, looking forward to more conversations with you 🙂

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  46. Hmmm…the comment issue presented as an article. You never fail to surprise pleasantly, Timi. 🙂

    To lend a voice to your cause, I must say as an avid reader and commenter on various online writing platforms, I have seen what great good commenting on people’s works can do. I have watched people’s writing improve on the strength of feedback from comments. My writing, too. I have witnessed the occasional writer become prolific all because of critical feedback from readers.

    Again, to buttress one point you made, I should say that not every one is (and should be) a critic. There is nothing wrong in saying ‘I enjoyed this.’ It might seem like a bland statement but it fires most writers to write more. On the flip side, ‘I didn’t like this’, while it may make the writer frown, could subconsciously make the writer write better. It happens.

    I also think that a blogger who shows that replying comments is as important as posting articles, deserves to be given feedback by her readers on the quality of the articles she posts. Responding to comments is a great incentive for readers to comment, in my opinion. I have desisted from commenting on some blogs on account of this: I do find it quite odd that a blog with lengthy articles, and an average of say five comments per post, never features the name of the blogger in the humble space where replies to comments usually reside.

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    1. Before I started blogging, I was a little bit like scared Molly. But after I started in earnest, I saw the benefits of commenting that you listed and shed my inhibitions. Another benefit to commenting on blogs is making real connections (as real as an online relationship can get), with others.

      In response to your take on bloggers who don’t respond to comments, I tend to agree and I’ll share a few thoughts as well:

      I have found that people have different ideas or agendas with regards commenting & replying to comments. I know a blogger who rarely replies to any comment on his blog (perhaps that is why the comments are fewer and fewer), but ‘discussions’ about his posts are very ‘loud’ on Twitter, with him leading and moderating.

      Some people have asked me to stop responding to e.v.e.r.y. comment, but the thing is:

      1. I really enjoy the engagement
      2. The spin-offs from the conversation(s) make me think and I like that
      3. I am not yet that ‘big’ that the comments overwhelm me
      4. If I’m branding myself as ‘girl next door’ then I’ve got to be ‘approachable’ 🙂 (when I become a mega blogger, I can re-brand myself as- ‘big’ girl next door!)

      Samuel, as usual, your comments make me write another blog post. Hey, but, I’m not complaining 🙂

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  47. Ok Timi this is so hilarious and refreshing. Well here I am commenting *makes faces* (because I’m not sure I’ve left a comment on your blog before) my reasons for not commenting often? Naaa not telling *tongue out* but seriously I like your blog and I stop by often. I hereby pledge to livelytwist to be a faithful and loyal follower, to leave my comments as often as I can so help me God *chest out* lols. Have a lovely week.

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    1. *Timi does the cha-cha and smiles* Yay, I’ve converted a non-commenter! 🙂

      I appreciate your being here and your support. April is a special month for my blog. I hope I can “convert” more people, if only for this month. Have a lovely week!

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  48. Lol Charles, rant away 🙂

    I think some kind of reciprocity is good practice in blogosphere. Having said that, people blog for myriad reasons and may have a different comment philosophy. I follow some bloggers (and comment on their posts), who have never liked or commented on my blog- maybe they don’t like what I write. It would be nice for them to leave a comment, but that wasn’t why I followed them in the first place. I find their writing, their take on issues interesting, so I continue to read.

    @secret cheerleader, lol! If only they knew how comments encourage us 🙂

    I have enjoyed my journey so far. Just like you, I’ve been privileged to connect with bloggers from all over the world.

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  49. Emm, I guess you don’t have to go to the gym before the first comment. Was that long?!
    I enjoyed the post and of course the graphics. Do you do them yourself? That’s a rare skill in a woman if you ask my chauvinist self.
    Again, Happy Sunday! 🙂

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    1. Thanks for saving me a trip to the gym 😉

      Thanks, yes I do the graphics myself. Is it a rare skill for a woman? Hmmm, I wouldn’t have thought so. Is it a field dominated by men?

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    2. Oh no he didn’t…gasp! Oga Charles, since you’re pleasantly surprised by Timi’s rare skill let’s make it even. Show us one rare skill you possess and I promise to give you a shout out. And no, writing blog posts in the wee hours of the morning/night about how men and women are different does not cut it! Lol 😀

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  50. This is spot-on “exactly what is on my mind lately.”
    People spam my @mentions on twitter pestering me to read their blogs… But they don’t care a hoot to drop occassional “smiley faces” on your blog… Pray, where is people moral or sense of righteousness?
    My last girl was a secret cheerleader even after I told her how important her comments meant to me…well, bygone.
    Funny, most commenters on my blog are females and I suspect some two wonderful bloggers, who saw me on livelytwist and
    decided to follow up on me… We are now great blogging buddies.
    If one is to consider grammar, he may never write at all… Some of my posts are dented by some overlooked errors which most times, after discovery, I left unedited…it tells about the originality of my works.
    There are those you read regularly but who wouldn’t condesend to read your works… Too bad for them, cos I would stop soon.
    PS: this is a kinda rant and I wish I could tell them off…
    I never believed in the Nigerian audience until I met blogs like yours (well, mostly diaspora writers) and I am glad for the quality of brains I encounter on this journey.
    Happy Sunday.

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